Force Quit on your Losing Streak

Almost a month in, and I’ve stuck to the most important of my new year resolutions: to grow in faith. At the end of last year, I was at odds with relationships in my life and wanted to turn everything over to God. Not only would dedicating the New Year to God bring me closer to Jesus, I felt doing so would also give me the answers I needed to mend the troubles I was having.


In order to hold myself accountable, I made a list of 12 people in my life I wanted to either improve my relationship with or needed to forgive; I make a similar list of 12 topics I wanted to focus on, in order to be a better Christian. I decided I would consciously pray each day for the person I dedicated that month to, and would read specific scripture each day addressing the topic of the month.
The list included subjects such as my parents, my sister, specific friends, my desire for a boyfriend, and working to overcome the negative perception of news. Topics included forgiveness, jealousy, worry, judgment, and being enough for myself.

What I’ve learned in my first month is that both mending and growing relationships, with people and God, takes time. I approached the resolution with optimism and was quickly rewarded with lines of open communication between me and the person I chose for January. But praying and reading the Bible does not automatically grant me positive mending every day. I’ve learned this is a process – there will be days I feel I’ve taken a step back. Yet, overall, I feel more complete. In just one month, a peace has overcome me. While I know there will be days and months full of ups and downs in 2017, I also know I have a God that I can always turn to. And as I grow in this journey, I hope to learn how to better listen and hear His voice, in all the times I turn to Him.


Disclaimer: I have not stuck to my resolutions to practice French twice a week or practice piano three days a week.


New Year: New Outlook

Each new year, as the clock strikes 12, billions of people resolve to change something in their lives (after sharing in a toast… or two of champagne). It’s the fresh start that fills us with the idea of hope. Of course, there are always those Negative Nancys, telling us we shouldn’t wait for a new year to start that diet, or give up smoking – but if indulging in a whole pizza one last time helps you get your health on track, I say, start whenever you want.

Attending church on a regular basis, spending time each morning with God, or somehow growing in faith, is a common resolution. Church on the first Sunday of the year looked like the first day of a new college semester: filled 20 minutes before class by people you won’t see again until finals (or in the case of church, Easter). I didn’t even get to sit in my usual pew. Fellow Catholics out there, you know the struggle.

Vatican on Christmas & New Year

St. Peter’s Square at New Years, 2011. Source: AP

I don’t mean to join the crowd of Debbie Downers when I say, January 1st isn’t the only time we renew our faith. In taking a Bible study class the last few months, one of the real lessons I’ve uncovered is the truth of Purgatory. A scary word to most Catholics, Purgatory is believed to be the place one gets “stuck,” if unworthy of Heaven, though aren’t immediately sentenced to Hell. Many have grown up, fearful of getting “stuck” in this “in between” for an infinite amount of time.

Studying Corinthians in this particular class, I read, “Each man’s work will become manifest; for the Day will disclose it, because it will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test what sort of work each one has done. If the work which any man has built on the foundation survives, he will receive a reward. If any man’s work is burned up, he will suffer loss, though he himself will be saved, but only as through fire.” (1 Corinthians 3:13-15)

Like a light bulb above a 1960’s cartoon character’s head, I was suddenly faced with a different, and less scary, picture of Purgatory.
Rather than a punishment for your sins, I wondered out loud to my Bible study group, if Purgatory could instead be a place of cleansing. Like fire cleans gold and silver, Purgatory seems to me more of a “second chance” for us sinners.


Source: ChinUpLittlePup

I believe in a forgiving God, but not a forgetful God. As humans, we all sin. God can, and will, forgive us of our sins, if we ask for forgiveness and truly accept Jesus Christ as the way to and through that forgiveness. But that doesn’t mean we get a free pass into Heaven. I think Purgatory could be a place for us to completely cleanse ourselves of all our sins. Just as we feel exiting a confessional booth, or walking out of a salon after a facial, we can walk out of Purgatory and through Heaven’s Gates feeling stripped of our Earthly wrongdoings. Instead of fearing Purgatory, I started to feel thankful for the chance to present myself to The Lord “whole” and “clean.”

The idea of a complete, fulfilling and healthy life is just what many look toward reaching and achieving when it comes to New Year resolutions, but whether you decide to focus on health and fitness, faith, career aspirations, or something else in 2016, don’t think of small progress each day the way older Catholics think of Purgatory. Progress isn’t punishment; it’s preparation for the perfect presentation of yourself.

A New Beginning

New Years was a tough holiday for me when I was younger. I was a high strung kid. Not much has changed but some of my OCD has subsided, and I now look forward to the new year as a challenge to become a better person.


I read Debbie Macomber’s “One Perfect Word” a few summers ago and it has stuck in my mind. People always think about setting healthy physical goals, but they often times forget about mental health.
My resolution is to focus on the word “patience” this year. Patience toward coworkers, my job search, my dog, and most important, toward God’s timing. I will also spend time each day with a devotional. Of course, I will need patience in regards to my own progress in finding patience and trusting God more, throughout the year.

Good luck to all of you, in your search to become better, healthier people in 2015! Cheers!

A look back at 2013

As the month of January comes to a close, I just now find myself reflecting on the past year. Possibly because school just started back, and for me, this feels like just as big of a new beginning as turning over a calendar.

My mother said she could never understand why people care about New Years or made resolutions because they never keep them and the day turns out just as any other. Well, no offense to my mother, but I for one love the holiday. The year 2013 brought me quite a few places. Some good, some not so much, but as I told her, a new year brings hope, if nothing else, and awakens people to think outside the box, try new things, and ultimately grow.

In the past 12 months…

…I ventured outside the United States for the first time, exploring London, England and Paris, France. I learned so much about myself as a person, how strong and independent I am, dealing with traveling hiccups on my own and learning to take things as they come. I really feel as if there is something in that European air that somehow smoothes things over. Whatever it is, I want to breathe it in again as soon as possible.

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…I interned with Indianapolis Monthly at Emmis Communications in Indianapolis, Ind.  While I have lived on my own for the past few years in college, living and working on my own outside a campus setting was quite exciting. I was able to meet up with old friends, meet new friends, find great mentors, learn countless things about the magazine world, and gain a few writing clips for my future – all while exploring a new city. I am truly grateful for all the opportunities and learning I acquired while at Indianapolis Monthly.


…I spent a weekend in Nashville, Tenn. visiting some family I haven’t seen in over five years. Good music, good laughs, good times.


…Got accepted into the mass communications graduate school program at Texas Tech University. While I will feverishly search for a job this semester before I graduate, it is comforting to know that I have at least one plan to follow come May.


…I rang in the New Year at a trendy bar outside Chicago with a great friend, and then started the New Year exploring another new city, in the mist of a giant snowstorm. Even though we had to trek through foot-high snowdrifts in search for an intersection to catch a cab from, I couldn’t help but look up and catch snowflakes on my tongue. We ran through the rail station and caught our train with two minutes to departure. You gotta take life as it comes at you, right?


So yeah, maybe January 1 is just like any other day of the year, but I have hope that 2014 as a whole will bring new experiences. And I have hope that I can take each of those experiences with a smile on my face.